Never make visitation arrangements directly with children under age 12.
Never suggest visitation arrangements you have not previously discussed with other parent. Always confirm with the other parent any visitation arrangement made with children under 12 and over.
Send and return children who are clean, well-rested, and fed. Do not send or return a snack or suitcase full of soiled clothes.
Do not discuss divorce or separation disputes with your children or allow them to hear you discussing your differences regarding them.
V. Do not send messages or money with your children.
Do not speak ill of the other parent- or of his or her relatives, friends, or loved ones.
Do not ask your children for information about the other parent's household, friends, income, or activities.
Do not believe everything you hear from your children.
Do not second guess the other parent regarding discipline, rewards, or anything else.
Give a sympathetic ear to your children, but affirm and reaffirm as often as necessary that you are not a referee or a mediator between your children and the other parent.
Be courteous in all your dealings with the other parent.
Put the child's interest before your own.