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GRAY DIVORCE 101

Apr 20, 2017

Although divorce rates have been falling across the country, California residents over 50 are not seeing this dip, which is part of an overall national trend being called “gray divorce.” In fact, according to the Los Angeles Times, nearly 15 percent of divorces come from couples who are over 50 years old. This is a dramatic spike, much of which has been attributed to increased longevity and longer-lasting health, putting a troubled marriage at risk for a longer amount of time than in years past.

If an older couple is facing divorce, there are different issues to consider. According to U.S. News, women are often more at risk in a late divorce due to likely earning less or perhaps being out of the workforce. For those considering divorce, experts advise compiling important documents in advance so assets are at less risk of being hidden from division. It is important to remember that in a divorce, “income is halved, while expenses double.” This may mean that keeping a family home is not in one’s best financial interest.

Women also live longer than men, on average, so considering the best financial course to ensure that money will not run out during retirement is of the utmost concern in a gray divorce. For wives who are granted spousal support, or alimony, it is possible to purchase life insurance on a spouse before a divorce is finalized. This insurance policy will protect against losing a necessary source of income, but this will require a medical exam on the part of the spouse being insured.

By Steven Medearis 04 Oct, 2017
The "burning bed" defense would forever change the way domestic violence was viewed. A legal strategy served as a catalyst for all legislation regarding domestic abuse. Equally as important, it would also establish the way law enforcement approaches the criminal act. Francine Wilson went to trial for killing her abusive husband in a landmark spousal abuse case that became the subject of a book and television movie, "The Burning Bed." Wilson passed away on March 22 of complications from pneumonia at the age of 69. In 1977, Wilson, whose last name was then Hughes, took the life of her husband, James "Mickey" Hughes, in 1977 by setting fire to their bed while he slept. Her testimony at trial painted a grim picture of the horrors she endured at the hands of her husband. Arjen Greydanus, Wilson's defense attorney, said that the account she gave the jury was effective in her being found not guilty due to temporary insanity. At the time, temporary insanity was not a recognized defense. Greydanus was certain that a traditional self-defense approach would not have resulted in a not-guilty verdict. The case captured the attention of the nation. Wilson's story became the subject of a book and a 1984 TV movie "The Burning Bed" starring Farrah Fawcett. Greydanus' legal "hook" became well known as the "burning-bed" defense. Jim Hughes, Wilson's son, recalled the bad times that outweighed the good. As a child, he could only watch as the police showed up at the family home, only to leave without doing anything. His mom would be battered and bloody after his father threatened her life. He also recalled that after the trial, book and movie, his mother was ready to put it all behind her. She considered that chapter of her life over. Wilson would eventually remarry and move to Tennessee before settling in Alabama, working as a licensed practical nurse.
By Steven Medearis 08 Sep, 2017
There is no way to be 100 percent prepared for the divorce process. Even if you have a solid grasp of what this will entail, there are sure to be challenges along the way. There are many things you can do to prepare for divorce, which can help you make the right decisions as the process moves forward. Here are some of the top steps to take : Get professional help. There are many types of professionals who can assist you during this difficult time, ranging from an attorney to a tax professional. Review your finances. You need to know where you stand with respect to your finances. This includes everything from the amount of money you earn to how much debt you are carrying. Open your own accounts. Now that your marriage is just about over, you need to open your own accounts. This can include a bank account, retirement account and credit cards, among others. Make changes to your estate plan. This is one of the most overlooked things that you can do to prepare for divorce. Your estate plan will need some adjustments now that you will be single in the near future. Along with this, you need to prepare for what the future could bring with respect to your children (if you have any). Address questions such as: Where will your children live? How will you ensure that you remain a big part of their life? Will you owe child support? Are you in position to receive child support? Answering these questions will give you a clear idea of what to expect down the road. It is hard to prepare for divorce , as you don't know what will happen as the weeks and months go by. Even so, you should do whatever you can to put yourself on the right track. This will improve the likelihood of a smooth and efficient process.
By Steven Medearis 06 Sep, 2017
Understanding the types of domestic violence in California can help you determine if you are a victim of this form of abuse. While most people recognize that physical abuse is not okay, there are other forms that are less common, but just as destructive. We at the Law Office of Steven Medearis have outlined some types that are not as well-known so that you can get help if you are caught in a dangerous relationship. According to American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress, your partner can actually commit spiritual abuse by controlling your family's religious preferences. If he or she ridicules you, prevents you from practicing or forces beliefs that you do not agree with onto your children, this is considered spiritual abuse. Manipulating you with spiritual beliefs is also wrong. Other forms of abuse can concern your economic or financial situation. If your partner demands that you choose a certain occupation or prevents you from working altogether, you may be experiencing this type of abuse. This can also happen if your partner withholds shelter, clothes, food or other physical resources from you as punishment or an incentive. Other more obvious forms of financial abuse are stealing or withholding money. Many people do not realize that their partner can be charged with stalking, but certain actions are illegal, even within a marriage. If your spouse unexpectedly shows up at your work to check on you, goes through your garbage, repeatedly calls you or tries to get information about you from your family members or friends, this can be considered stalking. For more information on domestic violence, please visit our web page.
By Steven Medearis 01 Sep, 2017
California parents who are splitting up will have to deal with issues of child custody. If you're going into a custody battle, you'll need to know what sort of factors can determine who is awarded primary custody, and what might be a strike against you if you're trying to win it. The Spruce lists out a number of different factors that courts take into consideration when determining how to deal with child custody . Some are obvious factors, such as whether or not you have a criminal history or any felonies on your record. Your physical and mental health will also be taken into consideration, as there are some situations in which one parent may not be considered fit to raise a child on their own by the courts. The interpersonal relationships in your family will also likely be scrutinized. For example, how well you and your ex-spouse can get along will be examined. Your closeness with the child in question may be looked at as well. Consistency and provisional capabilities are also big factors. For example, if you were taking care of your child for the majority of your relationship, the judge may vote for this to continue for the sake of normalcy. If you have the ability to financially provide for your child in a better way than your ex-spouse, this may also be considered. In the end, no two cases of child custody are determined in the same way. It's all up to your unique dynamic as a family, and your relationships with one another.
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